The primary aim of this article is to help you differentiate whether you’re using the ‘twin flame’ ideology as a reason to stay in an unhealthy relationship. This is the first step to begin if you are just starting to navigate your twin flame journey.

The truth is that what is nature of the relationship you are in, toxic or not, anytime you have the capacity to heal inner wound and relationship patterns, since the partner that you are with right now, all of them actually, matched your own vibration and mirror your status in your process of reuniting with true self.

The twin flame relationship can appear some time during the journey, dramatic, co-depending and toxic, because this connection will bring to surface all your unconscious toxic patterns, learned from childhood and during life, especially if you are coming from a toxic line family line and you experienced trauma. To be honest, we all did, at same level, so don’t feel ashamed or bad, the most important thing is that you are open and willing to do something about this.

The beginning of both relationships is same: love bombing, the feeling of meeting the one. In the toxic scenarios the characters are usually empaths and narcissists, that somehow are so drawn to each other, through trauma bond, both of them earning to be seen and understood just as they are, none of them being able to do that for themselves and looking outside for love and validation. In the twin flame dynamic, both twins are whole of themselves (this happens before re / union and, of course, during the re / union). They both need to be understood and seen but they realize that they are each other mirrors and “use” what the other is showing and then looking inside of themselves, transcending the mind and thus healing.

As long as you are experiencing that you can not live without the other, based on an overly romanticized bond between the tow of you, you are either on a trauma-bond, enmeshed relationship or you are still dealing with your co-depending traits in your twin flame dynamic. In the second scenario, most probably you are experiencing the runner -chaser dynamic, that reflects your inner dynamic in an accurate way.

The twin flame connection is one ruled by freedom and both twins are whole by themselves and together, keeping their individuality and space. If one of the twins feels that they need the other twin in order to feel happy and complete, they will never achieve the re / union.

Twin flame or not – this is just a tag actually – the main goal is to be in a heathy relationship, that, of course, starts within. Most of us have had emotionally troubled relationships in our lives until we decided to go withing and heal and reconnect. Therefore, don’t get scared and don’t give up if your twin brings out your “issues”, because that is his job. Of course, it hurts and of course you wanna do your way with him but is not going to help – use the mirror exercise, don’t get too offended and do the inner work. Example: “My twin is not talking to me – I am not talking to myself.”

There is a sanity relationship check-up, test, that I practices myself and it worked: set boundaries, ask for your real needs to be met, say “No” when you don’t want to do things, stand up for yourself – if you get ego driven reaction from your partner, such as: getting defensive, revengeful, competitive or victimized, than there’s your red flags and you need to end it as soon as possible. Also, if you see these red flags and you choose to stay, based on the self-sabotaging idea that everyone has flows and no one is perfect, then you will find yourself more entangled in this toxic dynamic of attachments. The trauma bond partner will never see and understand you, you can talk for hours, feeling empty and unheard, not to mention, judged.

The good part is that if you continue to heal and reconnect with yourself, that unhealed – toxic partner will have to level up, so that you can continue the relationship, and if he does not, for sure you are heading through a true love, healthy relationship.

Love is not something that you chase, dream all the time or suffer if you are not experiencing it, love is that state of balance within you, accepting and loving who you are, fully: your light and darkness, you nice and not so nice traits. I know it might sound mainstream, like standard motivational traits, but when you are actually living it, it feels so different in your body, just saying all these. Look for someone who is open to evolve with you and also who has a higher purpose in his life to achieve!

So, who are you and where are you in your journey today?  Let’s discover together

Kind reminder! All the information that I give you through my writings and working with me must be passed through your own discernment and your own intuition must tell you the truth and what is good for your soul. Listen do that, please, I am only a guide, YOU are the architect of your life!